Be the Husband God Designed
1 Peter 3:7
1 Peter 2:12
“Live such good lives
among the pagans that, though they accuse you of doing wrong, they may see your
good deeds and glorify God on the day he visits us.”
Peter uses the phrase “in the same way” meaning that God has rules and a role for the husband to follow within the framework of the family construct as well. It is interesting to note that Peter does not mention anything about headship or employing the husband to be the head of the home. This apparent lack of direct instruction is due to the fact that his wife Christian witness is her responsibility primarily. In addition, there does not seem to be any conditional prerequisites placed upon the audience that Peter was writing too. He does not say that the husband should be “considerate” to his wife only if she submits to him or treats him better. Peter’s tone seems to be that of expected response without any other grounds of negotiations contingent on the obedience. There are not “only if” or conditions place upon his instructions to the husband. The word “considerate” is the most crucial to the interpretation of what Peter is saying. The key word in this verse is the "considerate." In English this word means having or marked by regard for the needs or feelings of other, which usually characterized by careful thought. The English meaning certainly carries idea of one aspect of what this word means but being considerate goes both ways.
However, Peter was addressing specially the husbands in this verse. The Greek phrase is kata gnosis, “to know”, or "knowledge" in a continuous on-going state of knowledge. To better grasp what Peter was communicating is to take a close look at the whole phrase kata gnosis, which translated considerate, or to be more literal "according to knowledge" or "with understanding." The best translation, then, is "Husbands, in the same way live with your wives according to (gnosis) knowledge.” Gnosis translates the word knowledge, primarily a seeking to know, an inquiry, investigation, or to be aware of. Like the hupotasso, the Greek word for submit, this word in the Greek is a very strong verb and it involves obedient acknowledgment, as one would be moved to action after assimilating what is understood. Paul also elaborated on the husband's responsibility to protect and care for his wife, "just as Christ does the church" (Eph. 5:28-30)." By placing this phrase into the context of what Peter was saying it places emphasis on the husband's responsibility to have a working knowledge of their wives' spiritual, emotional, and physical needs and actively try to meet them on an everyday basis. Essentially, the emphasis is that of servant hood as a leadership. However, this does not mean that the husband is to accommodate to every whim of his wife’s wished, because being a servant to her needs does not necessitate being a slave to every one of her wants. Peter commands the husband to be a servant to spiritual, emotional, and physical needs of his wife, which is what’s being emphasis here.
Peter uses the phrases “treat them with respect” or “Giving honor to the wife”. The Greek original word for honor is often translated as "price." A better meaning here in Peter is to "value." Value your wife. As mentioned above, the wife is not looking to the world but to her husband for the genuine attention and value which all people need. She should never experience the dishonor of being ignored nor suffer the humiliation of having an unfaithful husband. The exhortation is to place a great value on their wife relationship: relationally (being faithful), physically and spiritually. The use of superior strength and towards her is not honoring her, but by becoming her protector and supporting her in times of need, that is what Peter is emphasizing here. The husband is placing her in high esteem as a vital and essential component of the marriage and the family structure.
The phrase “as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life” is no doubt that Peter stating that is no spiritual high achy in the Kingdom of heaven. While God created men and women roles differently there is not favoritism in the eyes of God. A quite opposite ideology of the time of Peter’s writing. Women at the time were treated, culturally, like possessions and not individuals. A godly husband realizes that his spouse is not only his wife, but also his sister in Jesus. Part of their inheritance in the Lord is only realized in their oneness as husband and wife. This reminds husbands that even though they have been given great authority within marriage, their wives are still equal to them in spiritual privilege and eternal importance: they are ‘joint heirs.
“So that nothing hinders your prayers: Prayers can be hindered. All sin hinders prayer, particularly anger. Anything at which we are angry is never more apt to come into our mind than when we are at prayer; and those who do not forgive will find no forgiveness from God. By not honoring and respecting who God made the wife, it can and will interrupt their communications with the God, a hard and server consequence for mistreating a wife. This should speak to the husband as to the gravity that God takes this issue. In summary, the wife is not a possession to conquer but an individual to cherish! The husband is to cherish and continuously be a servant to her needs and actively try to meet them so that he will have continuous uninterrupted communication with God. You see, the Peter telling husbands to place a great value on their wife and their relationship: relationally (being faithful), physically and spiritually. The use of superior strength and towards her is not honoring her, but by becoming her protector and supporting her in times of need as the weaker partner is what Peter is emphasizing here. A personal cannot have a car and use it if it does not have gas, the proper tune-ups, oil changes etc. A husband should not expect a active relationship with God if he’s dishonoring her down in life. There’s interconnectedness between how the husband treats his wife and his spiritual relationship with God.
However, Peter uses it more in a practical way, in that the reflective inquiry must be grounded in love and motive to action. Peter intention is to describe the husband roll as a servant to the needs of his wife. Working this idea in with what Paul was saying, "Just as Christ does the church," men have the responsibility protect, teach encourage, guild her as they journey through life together. If a man really desires to live in accordance with knowledge with their wife, he must understand their needs and actively attempt to adjust their living considering that knowledge. The primary need of all humans being is the need for appreciation. No women can resist the continuation of constant praise and affirmation. A woman who is praised is a secure, confident, and responsive wife. There is no doubt that Peter is instructing husbands to be aware of their wife’s needs and to learn to get their eyes off themselves and put their praise on their wife. When men actively live with their wives according to knowledge, they are protecting every aspect of their person. Roughness and strength of the male physic go hand in hand. But so does beauty and frailty. The female has what the man wants beauty and delicacy. The male has what the female wants - courage and strength. The one is as good in its place as the other, and by these things God has made equality between the man and the woman so that there is properly very little superiority on either side. This union of complementary natures creates one whole. Again, this does not mean that the husband is to acclimate to every whim of his wife’s wished, being a servant to her needs does not necessitate being a slave to her wants. However, Peter does command the husband to be a servant to spiritual, emotional, and physical needs of his wife that is what’s being emphasis here. Understanding her limitation in all aspect and actively release her of the unnecessary fatigue of fulfilling that which drains her spiritual, emotional, and physical, is exactly what Peter was getting at here in this verse. Just like most men devote considerable time and effort to learning every aspect of their job for which they are employed. What Peter is saying here is that similar effort should be given to learning to be a good husband and servant of his wife’s needs. Husbands are to be proactive about their relationship with his wife not reactive. He must give the more effort into his wife than anything else in the world, which will re-force his relationship with God.
1 Peter 2:12, “Live such good lives among the pagans that, though they accuse you of doing wrong, they may see your good deeds and glorify God on the day he visits us.”
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